I remember once I was at a conference...IBCLC conference, and a women who was not part of the conference saw a picture that ILCA had posted of a little girl pretending to breastfeed her doll. This picture that I had seen all week while walking into the conference never had made me think twice about it. Of course I grew up in a breastfeeding family and was now an IBCLC, but still it was obvious that this little girls mother was breastfeeding a sibling and she was trying to be like her mother. Little girls want to wear lipstick and high heels and everyone accepts that, because they are mimicking their moms, but for some reason this picture really upset this women. Well when she realized that she was saying how awful the picture was around a bunch of LC's, she said, "well I breastfed my kids". And in unison all the LC's said "how long?" It was clear that this women did not see breastfeeding as something natural and definitely not something you do in public. Why? well I would assume her up bringing, maybe when she was young she never witnessed a baby breastfeeding, or if someone was breastfeeding they probably left the room, shunned by who ever was around. Or maybe it was just her, she was not comfortable with the idea of people, especially children knowing about how a baby feeds from her mother. Whatever the reason that always stuck with me.
So now that my son is around me while I am feeding my little one, I had wondered how he would react. Since day one, I didn't do any preparation for him. I hoped that he would see it as just a normal part of the day. He did..and does :) He comes over a kisses her head when she's eating, and tells her " I hope you have a good meal". He doesn't ask me why she is eating from my breast or cringe or run into the other room, he accepts what I am doing and is completely comfortable with it.
Is it his personality? or is it how we raised him? I couldn't really tell you. All I can say is that when he grows up he will be his wives biggest supporter when she is breastfeeding. :)
I am an eternal optimist and of course I want all things in life to be positive. So in my optimistic mind I would hope that all moms, even the ones who don't breastfeed are able to explain breastfeeding as a normal and natural part of life to their children, because even if the mom does not breastfeed, it doesn't mean that her little girl will not breastfeed later in life, and it's important for her gown up self to be comfortable with it. Its hard enough to start breastfeed, and if your feel uncomfortable doing it around your own family, it makes it even harder.
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